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Gillian says,“Three months ago I started working as an office manager for a PR company and my confdence has just disappeared. I've always wanted to move up the career ladder—but now I'm on the next step, I worry I can't live up to the role. My previous job was as an offce administrator and I was there for four years. I knew everyone really well and there was always a colleague to chat to. I also didn't have to push myself too hard. But I always wanted a bigger challenge. I was really excited to get a more senior position, but now my nervousness is holding me back, and I know I need to get over it. My new job involves organizing the running of the offce and on my frst day in a meeting, I felt I wasn't making myself understood. I know there's a lot to learn but every night since, my mind has reeled with things I might have done wrong. The other day, I transferred a call to the wrong person. All day I expected to be given the sack. I worrywhat people think of me even though, logically, I know they're busy and I'm the last person on their mind. I worry that people think I can't cope with responsibility. It's strange as I'm confdent in other areas of my life. I'm in a steady relationship and I have a busy social life.”
David Wood is a life coach and entrepreneur. The expert says,“Firstly, Gillian should be congratulated for stepping out of her comfort zone. Many people who aren't forced to push themselves in their current position wouldn't even take a new job—they'd have stayed where it was safe—so she's really demonstrated courage here. However, Gillian seems to have a deep belief that goes something like，‘I'm useless, worthless, and any second they'll fnd out!’Even though her brain knows this is not true, as is the case with many people, she's fnding it diffcult to suppress those negative feelings. To boost confidence when your mind is bursting with things you might have done wrong, try writing down a list of everything you've done right. Often, people around you don't comment on the good things you do, but do remark on mistakes made. So, writing a list will help you put things into perspective. Also, ask for feedback so you can hear how you're really coming across, rather than letting your fears overrun the reality of the situation. If your boss is too busy to give you feedback, find a mentor at work who you can confide in and lean on for support, and who'll be honest with you. Also, the next time you start beating yourself up over failures, try this：stop and take notice of the fear building within you, accept it, and then make a conscious decision not to let it determine your decisions. For example, if you fnd yourself afraid to ask your boss how the report you did was, take notice of the fear, then tell your fear‘Thanks for the input’，and choose how you want to respond to it. Keep practicing this and you'll find yourselfmore in charge of your actions and feelings, and your confdence will grow.”
吉莉安說：“三個月前，我在一家公關公司做辦公室主任時，信心漸漸減退。我常常想在事業上有所進步——但是現在我還在事業的底層，我擔心自己不能扮演好這個角色。我原來的工作是辦公室的行政人員，工作了四年。我與那裏的每一個人都很熟悉，還常常與他們聊天。我也不必對自己要求太嚴格，但是我一直想接受更大的挑戰。我非常高興能得到晉升，但是現在我的精神狀態讓我無法控製，我明白我需要克服它。我的新工作包括組織辦公室的運轉，但是在第一天的工作會議上，我覺得自己有些迷惑。我知道自己需要學習的地方還很多，但是每天晚上我的大腦中時常會縈繞著我所犯的錯誤。那天，我把電話轉錯了人，一整天都感到可能會被炒魷魚。我擔心大家怎麽評價我，雖然我知道大家都太忙了，根本不注意我。我擔心有人會認為我不稱職。很奇怪，我在生活的其他方麵是很自信的啊，我有著牢固的朋友關係，並忙於社會生活。”
大衛·伍德是一位生活教練和企業家。他說：“首先，要慶祝吉莉安走出了她的‘安逸區’。許多人在他們當前的工作崗位上並沒有給自己任何壓力，也沒有找新工作——他們待在安全地帶——所以她展現出了自己的勇氣。然而，吉莉安好像有一種極深的信念，比如：‘我沒用，沒有價值，他們立刻就發現了！’甚至盡管她心裏知道這不是真的，就像許多人一樣，但她還是發現很難抑製那些負麵感覺。當你的想法被或許是你做錯了的事弄得崩潰時，試著列出一張你做對的事的清單來增強信心。人們通常不會關住你做對的事，而是留意你做錯的事。所以，列出一張清單會幫助你把這些事情看得更透徹。另外，去尋找反饋，這樣可以使你了解自己真正做得怎樣，而不是任你的恐懼感超越事情的真實情況。如果你的老板太忙了而不能給你反饋，你可以在工作中尋找對你以誠相待的指導者，信賴並依靠他的支持。還有就是，當你再次痛斥自己的失敗時，試著這樣做：停止斥責，關注你內心的恐懼，並接受它，接著做一個不讓它影響你決心的有意識的決定。例如，如果你發現自己害怕詢問老板你做的報告究竟如何時，關注這種恐懼，並告訴自己心中的恐懼‘感謝您的參與’，然後選擇你想要的回應方式。堅持練習，你就會發現自己在更多地管理自己的行為和感覺，你的信心也會隨之增強。”
心靈小語
對成功抱有信心，就接近成功。
W詞匯筆記
administrator[?d'ministreit?]n.管理人；行政官
例 You need administrator rights to do this.
做這些需要管理員權限。
reel[ri:l]v.卷；繞；眩暈
例 Help me to reel up this powerful fish.
幫我收繞釣線拉起這條大魚。
transfer[tr?ns'f?:]v.轉移；調轉；調任
例 You can pay for it by cash or bank transfer.
您可以付現金，也可以通過銀行轉賬支付。
logically['l?d?ik?li]adv.符合邏輯地；邏輯上
例 Compose yourself and deal with the problems logically.
冷靜下來，並且理性地處理問題。
S小試身手
人們通常不會關住你做對的事，而是留意你做錯的事。
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去尋找反饋，這樣可以使你了解自己真正做得怎樣，而不是任你的恐懼感超越事情的真實情況。
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堅持練習，你就會發現自己在更多地管理自己的行為和感覺，你的信心也會隨之增強。
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P短語家族
I worry I can't live up to the role.
live up to：實行；履行；不辜負
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Now my nervousness is holding me back, and I know I need to get over it.
get over：從……中恢複過來
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