佚名/Anonymous
The first time you meet someone, in the first moment you form an impression in your mind of that person. Your reactions to other people, however, are really just barometers for how you perceive yourself. Your reactions to others say more about you than they do about others. You cannot really love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself. We are usually drawn to those who are most like us and tend to dislike those who display those aspects of ourselves that we dislike.
Therefore, you can allow others to be the mirror to illuminate more clearly your own feelings of self-worth. Conversely, you can view the people you judge negatively as mirrors to show you what you are not accepting about yourself.
To coexist peacefully with others, you will need to learn tolerance. A big challenge is to shift your perspective radically from judgment of other to a lifelong exploration of yourself. Your task is to assess all the decisions, judgments you make onto others and to begin to view them as clues to how you can heal yourself and become whole.
I recently had a business lunch with a man who displayed objectionable table manners. My first reaction was to judge him as offensive and his table manners as disgusting. When I noticed that I was judging him, I stopped and asked myself what I was feeling. I discovered that I was embarrassed to be seen with someone who was chewing with his mouth open and loudly blowing his nose. I was astonished to find how much I cared about how the other people in the restaurant perceived me.
Remember that your judgment of someone will not serve as a protective shield against you becoming like him. Just because I judged my lunch partner as offensive does not prevent me from ever looking or acting like him. In the same way, extending tolerance to him would not cause me to suddenly begin chewing my food with my mouth open.
When you approach life in this manner, those with whom you have the greatest grievances as well as those you admire and love can be seen as mirrors, guiding you to discover parts of yourself that you reject and to embrace your greatest qualities.
第一次見到某人時，在第一瞬間，你的腦海裏會形成一個印象。你對他人的反應，其實就像你如何看待自己的晴雨表，更多的是反映出你自己，而不是其他人。你不可能真正喜歡或討厭他人的某個方麵，除非他反射出你對自身某方麵的喜好。通常，我們靠近與自己類似的人，而那些展示出我們自身某個不喜歡的方麵的人，往往令我們討厭。
所以，你以他人為鏡，能更清楚地折射出你對自我價值的感受。反過來，對於你不認同的人，你也能以之為鏡，顯露出對自身不滿意的方麵。
要與他人和睦相處，你必須學會容忍。你要從根本上轉變視角，不去評判別人，而是不斷地反省自身，這是一個巨大的挑戰。你的任務是，以你對別人做出的所有的決定、評判為線索，來改進和完善自我。
最近，我與一位客戶一起吃午飯，他吃飯的樣子實在令我很反感。我的第一反應就是：他粗魯無禮，吃飯的樣子令人惡心。當我意識到自己正評判他時，便停下來，捫心自問是什麽感受。被人看到與這麽個張著嘴咀嚼、大聲擤鼻涕的人在一起，我發現自己感到很難堪。我還發現自己很在乎餐館裏其他人對我的看法，這讓我感到很驚訝。
記住，你對他人的評判並不意味著你就不會像他那樣。比如，僅僅因為我評判那位客戶粗魯無禮，並不能保證我永遠都不會有像他那樣的行為。同樣，如果我容忍他的行為，也並不會因此突然張嘴咀嚼。
假如你用這種方式走進生活，你就能同時以你最不滿的人，和你最尊敬、最愛的人為鏡，指引你發現自身的缺陷，同時欣賞自己的最佳品質。
We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope.
—Mattin Luther King
我們必須接受失望，因為它是有限的，但千萬不可失去希望，因為它是無窮的。
——馬丁·路德·金
perceive[p??si:v]v.察覺；感覺；認知；理解
We perceived that we were unwelcome and left.
我們發覺自己不受歡迎，因此便離開了。
illuminate[i?lju:mineit]v.照明；闡釋；說明
Illuminate your home, warm your heart.
照亮您的家，溫暖您的心。
coexist[k?uig?zist]v.同時存在；共存
Different cultures have to learn to coexist peacefully.
不同的文化要學會和平共處。
objectionable[?b?d?ek??n?bl]adj.該反對的；有異議的；討厭的
Soft water is free from objectionable salts, and is preferable for household purposes.
軟水不含有害鹽份，適合家中飲用。
你對他人的反應，其實就像你如何看待自己的晴雨表，更多的是反映出你自己，而不是其他人。
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你以他人為鏡，能更清楚地折射出你對自我價值的感受。
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要與他人和睦相處，你必須學會容忍。
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We are usually drawn to those who are most like us and tend to dislike those who display those aspects of ourselves that we dislike.
tend to：常常；傾向於
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When you approach life in this manner, those with whom you have the greatest grievances as well as those you admire and love can be seen as mirrors, guiding you to discover parts of yourself that you reject and to embrace your greatest qualities.
as well as：（除……之外）也；既……又
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